Life.......
now is full of turmoils, frustrations, demands, and deadlines. Stress has become a way of life. It isn’t always bad. In small doses, it can help motivate you to do your best. But when you are constantly running in emergency mode, your mind and body pay the price.
If you frequently find yourself feeling exhausted and deeply move or hurt emotionally, it’s time to TAKE ACTION to bring your nervous system back into balance. You can protect yourself by learning how to recognize the signs and symptoms of stress and taking steps to REDUCE its harmful effects.
Stressor 1 # INSECURITY- Paying bills, managing debt and sticking to a budget scored highest of all the stressors in a survey. But is not about the money. Much financial stress actually has to do with uncertainty - about your money situation, yes, but that really means your job. Not knowing specifics about where you stand eat at you like acid.
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alleviate it Go on a fact finding mission. Ask your boss how you fit into the company's plans or what you can do to make yourself more valuable. If he pauses or doesn't appear truthful, push him with questions such as "Can you be more specific?". The more answer you are given about your situation, the more clarity you will have - and clarity equals control.
Stressor 2 # HAIR LOSS
- More than half the men in the poll felt stressed about image and many specific hair loss as the mane culprit. Multiple studies also showing that male pattern baldness negatively affects men's feeling of attractiveness.
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alleviate it Reframe the problem as a medical issue. Treating hair loss with transplant cost $3500 on average, while drug or supplement treatments can cost as much as $100 a month, for decades. Run the numbers and decide if the expense is truly worth it. If it is, then go for it. But if you think you can deal with it as a mere medical inconvenient, you will be better able to rest easy.
Stressor 3 # EXERCISE
- How is this for a bitter irony: Exercise is well-known stress buster, yet nearly a third of the men polled rated sticking to an exercise programme a 7 or higher on a 10 point stress scale. First, you stress about missing a workout or not exercising at all. Second, as you attempt to carve out time to exercise, your stress skyrockets as you cram in all other things you need to accomplish that day. That struggle may affect how and what you are eating, and now your food intake become a stressor.
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alleviate it Potion control - for your workout schedule. Shrink your exercise "potions" by boosting intensity. Turn your cardio routine into a shorter, interval workout that alternates sprints with your normal pace. This also boost fat-burning. If you are lifting weights, cut your between set rest in half. Go from a mins to 30secs between each of 12 sets and you save 6mins. then look for ways to condense other activities: showering, cooking, surfing the net, etc. You have the time. You simply have to own it.
Stressor 3 # CO-MANAGING THE CASH
- Financial stress can be much worse for men when they are in a relationship because a man's view of the situation if often different from a woman's. Sometime, the views are diametrically opposed. Research showed men tend to report higher values for assets, such as home or car, while woman inflated debt totals. This also shows that couples often dont know much money they have or won't talk about money honestly. They refuse to address it because it's awkward or embarrassing, or there's so much baggage that they don't want bring it up.
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alleviate it Take 15 mins to write down your estimated assets, debt, and net worth. Do this separately and then compare your numbers with recent statements. If you share long term financial goals, then the obvious imbalances in spending become easier to acknowledge. Mutual fairness allows your stress levels to drop.
Stressor 4 # YOUR SPORTS TEAM
- One in four men in poll rated watching their tem lose a 7 or higher on the stress scale. Research shows that the deeper our dedication to a team or a player, the more likely we are to transform emotional reactions into hostility.
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alleviate it Find an online forum that discuss your favourite team and dump your irritability there. Virtual venting might be a good thing. Blogs and forums offer a place for socially acceptable displays of aggression. The language may be rough and the attitudes tough, but the losers can express sorrow or sympathy and no one is hurt physically.
Stressor 5 # MORONS
- Simply living life means dealing with inconsiderate people and crappy service. You can't influence them. You see that these people aren't making the best decisions and think you can do better. As a result, you feel less in control and that's a serious hidden stressor.
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alleviate it Dont become embroiled in the moron's messes. First, knowing that sometimes i am an idiot, too. I also remind myself of a quote i heard "
When you give someone a piece of your mind, you are given up your peace of mind." If you try influence them, you give them control over you. I have driven myself crazy trying to fix people i know cannot be fixed and don't want to be fixed. Now, it's more fun if i just find them ENTERTAINING
If anxiety has already set in, banish it with stress reduction exercises.
MOVE: When you feel stress, tale a walk. But don't think of your troubles, pay attention only to the physical things you see, like cars.
REFOCUS: If thoughts relating to your anxiety intrude, tell yourself to think about them later. Wrestling with those thoughts just embeds them deeper.
DETACH: Train your brain to be able to observe negative events with detachment - to be able to say: "I won't become anxious about this. I am just going to focus on the problem."
Take care
